I get asked quite often how I stay motivated in my transformation. And my answer is always that it’s my ever changing goals that keep me going.
When I set out to transform my body from fat to fit I knew it was going to be a long journey and I knew it would take a substantial amount of time and effort. I also knew that the only way I could stay on track is if I kept myself motivated. But staying motivated with long term goals is very difficult. It is heavily embedded in our genes to concentrate on short term benefits vs. long term goals. This is all part of our fight or flight mentality that has kept us alive this long. It’s also the same motive that makes us impatient and demand instant gratification. I will spend an extra $20 just to have something shipped overnight so I could have it tomorrow. I mean who can wait three days for ground shipping?
And this impatience is also what hinders many when it comes to fat loss and body transformation. This impatience is what keeps the weight loss industry going. This instant gratification is what keeps the miracle pill and weight loss supplement manufacturers in business. But I have to tell you there is no shortcut. There is no quick and easy fix. You have to just settle in for the long haul. But how can you keep going for the long run without the instant gratification? It’s easy! Set instant gratification goals!
My ultimate long term goal is a sub 3 hour marathon and qualification and running the Boston marathon. This is my long term goal. But at 237 lbs with almost 40% body fat this goal seems rather lofty and so far fetched that it’d be impossible to even comprehend the amount of work and time required to achieve this goal. So I had to set up plenty of other goals in the meantime.
My next long term goal is to get to 160 lbs (73 kg) at under 10% body fat. Again, this goal is not as far fetched as the Boston marathon and it is attainable well under a year for me. This goal I was proudly advertising at work and I told about it to everyone I knew. This generates pressure on me as I don’t want to be the person who makes an ass out of their mouth. This sort of peer pressure and accountability keeps me going towards this long term goal. Plus it’s a lot easier for non-runners to understand what it takes to lose close to 80 lbs vs. what it takes to run a sub 3 hour marathon. Although most people are heavily disillusioned about what it takes to lose 80 lbs.
The next trick in my bag is the Internet. With the Internet it is very easy to find people that have similar goals as yours and it’s always more fun to do things in teams or with others. So I have joined several message boards, transformation.com, bodybuilding.com, johnstonefitness.com and started actively participating. I have also signed up with numerous challenges with other people like me who have similar goals as me. They might not want to run a 3 hour marathon but they all want to transform their bodies.
I purposefully didn’t link to transformation.com as I no longer visit that site. While it is probably good for some people I found it too warm and cozy over there. I mean I like support and enthusiasm and a good pat on the back but over there it was just a bit too spiritual and phony for my rational engineering mind. Bodybuilding.com is a different story. Those guys and girls are hard core and into heavy lifting and body building. They think bigger is better. But the weight loss forum has a lot of good information and a lot of helpful folks that will give you honest advice with your diet and exercise regime. I personally have different ultimate goals as most of the people there, I do not want to be a muscle head but there are lots of challenges that you can partake in some even come with prize money.
Johnstonefitness.com is ran by a single guy, John Stone who transformed his body from fat to fit and he has been at it for 7 years. His progress is phenomenal and he is a true inspiration to anyone. His transformation and process is very methodical, just like mine, so I really felt inspired by it. His forum is great and while not as active as some other ones I do visit it every now and again. He also has monthly challenges where you can keep track of your progress and adds another way of public accountability.
I also challenge my co-workers into weight loss challenges. And while these challenges don’t come with a prize money, only bragging rights, they’re a great way to get your daily dose of motivation. And I never pick an easy target. When I weighed 226 lbs I challenged a co-worker to get to 200. He is over 6 feet tall and he was only 216 lbs at the time. He had a good solid advantage over me. Guess who won? Christmas did him in. He was down to 206 at one point but could not get under it. I’m down to 187 now while he’s back at 218. I wish he could have kept with me but there is only so much I can do to keep him motivated.
I have also challenged another co-worker just after new year, once I was under 200. He weighed 192 and I was at 196. Our target is first to hit 180. He’s down to 186 and I’m 187 now. I’m inching up on him slowly but surely. He’s a lot tougher competition than my first challenger, this guy actually plays 9 hours of racquetball every week in multiple leagues and he actually tracks his calorie intake on fitday.com. He’s a lot more serious than my other competitor. But I still have faith in myself and I think I will meet my goal of 180 before he will.
I also have a longer bet going with a third co-worker. He’s one of the people who constantly yo-yo with their weight. He has reached as low as 179 and as high as 200+. Currently he is sitting on 192 but it’s due to the Superbowl (major Saints fan!) and Mardi Gras that he just came back from. He was ahead of me at the beginning but now he’s behind and I think it will stay that way. He is on the P90X program and he is pretty into it. But if you blow your whole month on two weekends you’re in serious trouble if you’re trying to match up with me. I’m ruthless! His only hope is to get back on the P90X hard core and keep at it. I really hope that he’ll stay motivated enough to keep going. He’s not only doing the exercises, luckily he’s concentrating on his diet too. Hopefully he’ll get down to his target weight of 175. As for the challenge, it’s very simple with him. I simply said that I would weigh less than him by July. So this is a longer term challenge that will keep me motivated. I just hope he keeps up the challenge so it stays fun. There is no fun in a race when you lap the guy.
Since I got below 190 lbs my goal has shifted from fat loss to endurance running. I’m concentrating more on running now and less on my weight loss. The above challenges will keep me going on the weight loss but my goal is to increase my VO2Max and running speed. And weight loss is a great way to do that. So fat loss is more of a necessary side effect of my real goal at this point.
I also have much shorter goals in my mind. Namely I set out every morning not to eat over 1,800 calories. This is a goal that is very easily kept for me at this point. I also set out to run and do strength training appropriately every week. I also strive to have my actual weight never go over my rolling average trend line. If it did it would mean I’m heading in the wrong direction. I just can’t let that happen. So far I have been successful. Unlike most people who dread the scale I can’t wait to get on it every morning and see how much I have lost. Because as long as I keep all my other goals I know that there is no way the scale is going to move upwards. Ever.
One last thing that I always try to remember is that sometimes it’s OK to cheat. It’s also OK to take a break. But it cannot be a permanent vacation from your progress. You have to chalk it up as a wasted day or week and keep on going. It’s not about the cheating it’s about getting right back on track. I have had days when I just couldn’t get out of a terrible meal and my daily diet was shot. I just wrote it off as a bad day and I knew that the only damage it did was lengthen my transformation by another day. Certainly not the end of the world. Last week I was injured and I could not run. I could have just thrown in the towel and decided never to run again, instead I got back out there as soon as I felt it was OK for my foot to run on. I’m running better than before and I feel great about it. Sure, it would have been nice to get in those two extra tempo runs and interval training sessions but I will still be able to run my race without them. I will still compete and finish 10K in a week.
So what motivates you? How do you stay on track?